Dear girls of the world: don’t let sexual harassment or cat calling stop you from doing anything
Dear girls of the world,
I have been traveling to over 50 countries, most of them alone. During the way, I have been a victim of cat-calling more times than I am able to keep count of.
You, as a solo female traveler will unfortunately experience to be cat-called by men as well, if you decide to travel the world. You will hear words be shouted after you like “Mamacita! or Sexy!”. You will hear whistling when you walk on the sidewalk, from men passing by. You will experience getting repulsive compliments, and have men staring at you.
During my travels, I have experienced all of this. Furthermore, in India one man broke into my hotel room, and tried to force me to kiss him. In Cuba, I had a man trying to prevent me from getting out of an apartment by holding me by force in one arm while closing the door again with the other. This I think was an attempt of rape, but luckily I got away. When visiting a tourist attraction in Jaipur, I heard a bunch of young guys that spoke loudly about me, where one of them said while pointing at me with one hand and holding his penis with the other: “Now, I’m horny!” I have had countless of unknown young men asking me if they could take a picture together with me, and then holding around me in the picture.
I have seen that some of these images have been abused in social media, saying I was their girlfriend. This took place in African and Asian countries. In the Middle East, I have been repeatedly tried bought by camels of men that wanted to marry me.
Ask any solo female traveler, and she will have similar stories like this to tell you. Nevertheless, most do not share them and keep them to themselves as they feel it is shameful and taboo. This we need to get a stop on! However, there are several articles out there, on how to avoid being a victim of sexual harassment on travels. They advise you to dress conservative, follow the norms and rules of the country you are in, not smoke or drink alcohol or go out alone at night. That being said, my experience is that harassment is an issue that is impossible to avoid. Even if you follow these rules. And do you know what, I think that we as women have the right to dress and do whatever we want, whiteout expecting to be harassed sexually!
By sharing this I do not want to scare you, though it might seem so. I want to create awareness, as few do so on this topic by sharing their personal stories. The truth is that this will happen to you if you decide to travel solo. But do not let that stop you to stay at home. I believe if you do so, that is the opposite of feminism; simply because you do not do what you want because of your gender. And that is why you should not sexual harassment this stop you from travel!
who dreams about going everywhere