Dear girls of the world: Face your fears ahead and you’ll have nothing left to fear

Dear girls of the world,

I was hanging on to the metal wire for dear life, even though I was strapped in a safety harness I just didn’t feel safe. In my head I was thinking if I slipped off the moving boards below I would never have the strength to pull myself back up. Then the dark thoughts started to enter my head, “what were you thinking Sharon you are way to fat to be hanging in the trees?” The boards on this tree-top trekking adventure are swaying in front of me and I have three boards left. There are no ladders at the next platform and I know I won’t be able to move on to the next leg in the course.

After what felt like forever I finally reached the next platform and I knew I was done. Holding back the tears I tell the guide I can’t go on. I have no idea how they are going to get me down, I’m hoping they will pull a ladder up to the platform, but soon a second guide makes her way to the platform. “I’m going to set you up for the high angle rescue!” The lump in my throat was growing larger, I’m in the middle of a blogger press trip and I couldn’t complete the activity. I had to be rescued out of a tree. Humiliated I wait as she adds more wires to my harness and explains the next step. I have to step off the platform and she will lower me down. I have to trust the harness will hold all my weight.

Dare to dream – even when you’re hanging from a tree

Here is the thing girls of the world, this moment ended up being one of those life changing moments that I will never forget. Halfway down the tree I realized something huge, a huge wave of joy came over me and I realized I was the only blogger that had this angle of story! I realized that this is exactly what I wanted to be doing! Travel writing!

In the weeks after this trip I made a decision I never wanted to be the fat girl that can’t do things on my travels. I didn’t want tourism boards to think she’s too overweight to participated on the activities on this press trip. So I took drastic measures and decided to change my health for good. I started a super strict clean healthy diet with the help of a doctor. I took out all the processed food and sugar from my diet and started regular sessions with my trainer.

We all deserve the life of our dreams

I wish I had someone to tell me back then that I deserved to live the life of my dreams. That moment solidified in my heart what I wanted out of life. I wanted to be healthy and I wanted to write. I devoted myself to my blog, attended networking sessions, wrote more consistently and got invited to attend more trips and write guest blog posts.

If you are passionate about something – go for it! Don’t wait, don’t let all the doubts stop you from doing something you love! Many people will question you, doubt you, project their own fears on you, but you have to shut the noise out! If you feel the moment of pure bliss, where the corners of your mouth are turned up and your face hurts from smiling – seize it! That’s your passion! That is what you are meant to be doing!

After about 30 pounds of weight loss people stopped following me on Facebook, others questioned my diet – is it healthy? Can you really keep eating like that forever? Are you making any money from your blog?

Shake things up: step outside the comforts of your box

Don’t let them talk you out of doing what you love. Don’t talk yourself out of it either. If you feel scared or anxious that is probably a good thing. It means you care a lot about what is going to happen. I feel like the more I step outside my comfort zone the better things get. Sure I’m scared at first, but then that rush hits and that feeling of joy and it’s all worth it!

I never thought in a million years I’d be putting on snowpants and venturing out into the cold for a vacation. But I did it! I went ice fishing, dog sledding, snow shoeing and loved every single moment. I still get that fear sometimes like am I able to do this? Will I get tired and not be able to complete the activity, but I always do it anyway and then just feel the joy.

Sometimes life throws you curve balls

After losing over 60 pounds I was feeling on top of the world. I was going on trips and experiencing all kinds of new adventures and writing about it. Then one morning at my day job I got pulled into a boardroom and handed an envelope. I felt the world crashing around me and the joy leaping inside of me all at the same moment.

In the days after that envelope was handed to me there were moments I danced around my house shouting “I’m free, I’m free!” No more office cubicle! No more feeling under-utilized, no more being looked over and no more driving for hours to and from the office. Then the weight of it would hit me. I’m single, I have this house, how am I going to manage it – and in a second the sheer bliss turned to me lying in the Fetal position crying on the floor. Anxiety, fear and tears filled me as I tried to figure out what I was going to do next. As I write this I still don’t know the answer to that question.

This is not a sad ending! I have a dream and the one thing that is keeping me going right now is that very dream! I want to be a self-employed entrepreneur combining all my creative passions: graphic design, photography and travel. Most of all I want to be healthy and happy and I want to have more of those bliss moments. I call them my happy bubble moments. The moments where I could bust from happiness! Where I’m smiling so hard my face hurts the next day!

Am I afraid? Oh yes I am! But I’m not going to let that stop me! I’m facing this fear head on and hopefully at the end of this scary road is that awesome feeling of joy! For all of you all I can say is don’t let the fear stop you! Live your dreams! Go out there and find your passion! Live in your happy bubbles and believe in your dreams!

Wishing you all joy!

who is currently writing her business dream plan

Sharon Mendelaoui is a travel writer, passionate photographer and creative designer. She is the creator and publisher of Dream Travel Magazine (, an online travel magazine filled with dream trips, hotel and product reviews, travel tips and inspiration to travel. In 2013, Sharon attended TBEX a travel blogging conference that literally changed her life. The short version of the story: she was on a FAM trip, got stuck on a tree platform and had to be rescued from the tree, an experience that pushed her to live her life differently! She lost 75 pounds with a healthy eating lifestyle, dedicated herself to travel writing and started living the life of her dreams!

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