Dear girls of the world: The truth may hurt a while, but a lie hurts forever
Dear girls of the world,
The truth may hurt a while, but a lie hurts forever; I’ve learned this the hard way. Not too long ago, I was living a lie myself. I majored in computer science in college and worked a corporate job as a software engineer. Deep down I always knew it wasn’t meant for me, but I wasn’t strong enough to accept it. I hated programming, but it brought good income and it sure impressed my parents (and everyone else). I had chased this path for all the wrong reasons and so it made me miserable for years.
Soon after, I started traveling, which changed my entire perspective. Travel has led me to my destined path and has given me the strength to accept myself for who I really am.
“Better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie.” — Khaled Hosseini
I was too afraid to face the truth because it meant destroying the illusions I was living. It meant having to let people down, choosing another major, and prolonging graduation. It was easier to comfort myself with lies and to pretend that everything was fine. But the longer I lied to myself, the deeper hole I was in. I soon found myself stuck in the corporate world where my life was getting sucked out of me. I noticed myself becoming easily irritated, which hurt myself and those around me. The lies were slowly eating at me; I knew I couldn’t ignore my happiness forever.
I soon discovered the beauty of solo travel. Since then, it’s been the number one thing that has allowed me to truly understand myself as a person. Being out of the ordinary and visiting a new place, gave me opportunity to be myself completely. Distancing myself from all the chaos back home had amplified my inner voice. I was finally starting to see things for what they were. I’ve met people who were living their dreams and I’ve noticed these were the happiest kinds of people. They had a sense of who they were and used it to cultivate their passions. I was inspired by the little things I’ve seen and the people I’ve encountered. I eventually mustered the courage to accept my truth.
The moment I accepted that I wasn’t a programmer, the more things started to align in my life. The truth is, I’m a creative person who loves to take pictures, travel, and relate to people. Today I tie all my passions in one through my writings on my blog. This is what gives me fulfillment and meaning in life. I don’t care about money, status, and fame anymore. I care about finding my purpose and sharing my story with others hoping to make their lives even just a teeny bit better.
When you face your truth, you stop wasting time on the wrong things — or in my case, the wrong path in life. A whole set of possibilities will start to open up for you. You will utilize your natural skills to your full potential and create something unique to offer the world. It will make you a happier person (less wrinkles!), creating a ripple effect to those around you. You’ll make room for growth and discover a better and stronger version of yourself in the long run.
So girls, be strong and face the truth head on!
“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” — Buddha
who is on a continuous journey