Dear girls of the world: It’s okay to be lost
Dear girls of the world,
I don’t mean lost as walking home drunk through a dark forest after a night out, because that probably wouldn’t be ideal. I’m talking lost as in not having an idea about what you want out of your life. If you’re nodding in agreement, honestly girl, don’t worry. It’s okay to be lost.
As a fresh faced 15 year old schoolgirl you’re pressured to decide what you want to do at college, university and then ultimately, your life. I think this is pretty ridiculous. Almost ten years on and to be quite honest, I still have no clue. I have no idea where I want to be in six months time, let alone five years. I’m still undecided about where I want to live and the job I want to work. Most people my age are pretty comfortable; they have decent careers ahead of them, they’re getting engaged, buying houses and having babies. And I’m standing over here deciding which country I want to visit next!
It’s okay to be different. Travel has confirmed this for me.
You’ve heard it all before. And as cliche as the memes are, most of them are pretty spot on! Travel has really opened my mind and changed my outlook on life. Over the past two years I’ve met more like-minded people than I’ve met in my entire life. It can be such a breath of fresh air when you meet other life-clueless people who are just enjoying living in the moment and seeing what happens. Travel has tested me as a person, both emotionally and physically. I’ve been pushed to the limited and done things that I would never have had the chance to do if I never went travelling. I’ve experienced new cultures and met local people, some of which really don’t have much to call their own but they are so happy. It has really shown me what really is important in my life and it’s definitely put a lot of things in perspective.
For me, travelling has enabled me to strip back and become the person I was meant to be. Being lost has set me free. If you are feeling lost in life, please don’t panic.
I have some advice for you…
Stop worrying about money. As long as you have money to eat and you have a roof over your head, then you’ll be fine. If you want to do something then save for it. You don’t have to be rich to follow your dreams.
Stop worrying about careers. There’s no point trying to force yourself into a career you’re not passionate about just because that’s what everyone else is doing. Try different jobs, travel: take that leap you’ve always wanted to take. You’ll eventually walk the path you’re meant to walk and along the way you would have shown that you’re open minded and versatile.
Do what you love. Make sure you have ‘me’ time. Doing things that you love will give you an escape from reality, whether it be a dance class, reading a book, designing an app or even throwing yourself out of a plane ten times a day. Try not to push your passions aside, they are a fundamental necessity of life. Doing these things will keep your mind fresh and your heart young.
Don’t let anybody hold you back. Compromise is good, but if there is something that you’ve always dreamed of doing, you gotta’ go do it, girl! Sometimes being a little bit selfish now will make you a better person in the future. You don’t want to end up feeling resentment for missing an opportunity.
Be curious and spontaneous. Asking questions and trying new things will help you discover what you want and don’t want from your life. Open every door that you come across, you never know what could be inside…
Don’t rush. Do the fun things when you’re young. Stop trying to grow up so fast! It makes me so sad when I see young girls wearing a face full of makeup and high heels. Get stuck in and dirty! You have the rest of your life to be responsible and take on life-long commitments.
Choose your friends. Hang around the people you actually enjoying being around. Make sure they bring positivity to your life and forget impressing people.
You’ll find your way eventually. For now, just enjoy the now; travel far and always remember to smile. Being lost is freedom in disguise! Embrace it!
Peace, love and happiness,
who is currently ‘lost and loving it’ in Byron Bay, Australia