Dear girls of the world: Be active in the pursuit of your dreams

Dear girls of the world,

I was not always a traveler. In fact, for years and years before I finally made the leap, I was exceedingly passive in the pursuit of my dreams. Though I had always wanted to travel, as I shifted from childhood to adult-life, those dreams were constantly and consistently subsumed by things I deemed “more important.” Above all else, I prioritized saving money, a top-notch GPA, and finishing university early. Don’t mistake me, there is nothing wrong with valuing those things; rather, the problem lays with thinking that they will be a panacea for happiness and personal growth.I always figured: If I work hard and toe the line, the things I will find a way into my life. Worse than that, I had only the vaguest idea about what is was I actually wanted: my ideal future was little more than an indistinct and amorphous idea, and unfortunately I allowed that lack of clarity to paralyze me. I kept thinking: I will travel when I have more time. I will travel when I have more money. I kept hoping that one day my path, my purpose, and an easy way to realize my travel dreams would randomly strike me like some lightning bolt from the blue. It never did.

In Maui, Hawaii.

As it turns out, attending university does not magically illuminate your path in life, good grades mean almost nothing unless are looking at graduate school, and a bachelor’s degree does not automatically guarantee you a good job.As my university graduation approached, all of these things become increasingly clear: I was graduating with honors and a great GPA; yet, I still had no clue about what to do next! None! Those answers that I had always assumed would magically appear… They never did. Suddenly, something significant shifted, and I finally realized that I just had to go. Plan or no plan, clarity or not, I either had to go now, or forever wonder what might have been. At this point, you’re probably wondering: What does this have to do with me?

Morgan’s University Graduation.

My message to you is this. Don’t be afraid and don’t wait for the so-called “perfect situation.” There will never be a “perfect” time to do anything. There is now, and there is later, and if you keep choosing later, you might wake up one day and realize you are out of time. So you don’t know exactly what you want to do? So what? Try on dreams like I try on outfits. If you are interested in something, pursue it! Get a part-time job, get an internship, join a club, apply for a program – whatever options are available, pursue as many as you can. The worst that could happen is that you will figure out what you don’t want to do, meaning that you are one step closer to finding what you do want.I always assumed that I would never be able to find a way to travel long term and make a living.

As it turns out, this could not be further from the truth. Though I am so happy to finally be living my dream, even more so, I am happy I finally realized how vital it is to be the main agent for change in my own life. In the end, I’m the only person who can enact personal change in a meaningful and lasting fashion. As this applies to me, it also applies you. Ultimately, all it takes is steadfast commitment to your goal, a willingness to get creative, and most importantly, the ability to keep moving forward despite the fear and uncertainty of trying something new. Being passive gets you nowhere. All the necessary power and potential are already there inside you, you just have to be willing to reach out and seize them.

Love,
Morgan
who is dreaming and wandering through Asia

Morgan Sullivan is a Colorado native with suburban sensibilities and penthouse dreams. She writes about life as a millennial wander, self-improvement through travel, and the realities of teaching English in Korea on her website A Beautiful View (beautifulview.org). Currently in the throes of a desperate battle between dreamland and adulthood, she invites you to come along as she explores this crazy beautiful world of ours.

Comments

  • February 1, 2015

    There will never be a “perfect” time to do anything.

    Why did that hit me so hard! =( I told myself I’m waiting for the perfect time! Huhuhu

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  • Morgan Sullivan
    February 2, 2015

    I will admit that there are better times and worse times to do something, but whatever it is you’re wanting just go for it! You won’t regret it! Even if it doesn’t work out at least you will know you tried 🙂 Thanks for reading!

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  • Marychris Nuneza
    February 5, 2015

    I also believe in “perfect” timing. But after reading your article realization hit me that its your action that can make a perfect situation.

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  • June 7, 2016

    “So you don’t know exactly what you want to do? So what? Try on dreams like I try on outfits. If you are interested in something, pursue it!” Faved line. This post made me realize things Huhu Thanks!!

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