Dear girls of the world: stop bringing down the girl next to you just because you don’t agree on something
Dear girls of the world,
I haven’t been everywhere, but I met enough women who have low self-confidence, who doubt themselves every day, who questioned their value, who tried hard to fight for what they believed in but had given up to fight their battles.
From the women who I met personally through travelling to the women who cry out on the digital world about their worth, it breaks my heart that we live in this so called modern world, but women still cannot find their value in the society.
Dear you, yes you girl, less than 100 years ago when we started to be able to be part of the society. Since that day, we have been working hard to be treated equally. A lot of women has lost their lives to win this battle.
I know you have heard this a lot of times, you are special, that is so true, perhaps it doesn’t leave any impact to you anymore. Let me try to remind you why you are special.
Your nose is not perfect neither your hair. You are not as skinny as her and so? That doesn’t mean you are less the worth or you cannot do anything to change the world. You cannot sing nor dance, but that’s okay, I’m sure something inside you is special. He left you for someone else, fuck him. You know to yourself that you didn’t lose him, he lost something – something hard to find.
Dear girls, don’t hate each other, stop bringing the girl next to you down just because you don’t agree on something. We, girls, had enough hard time to find our place in the society, let’s not make our life harder. Instead, let’s lift each other up. The girl lives next to your apartment who wears makeup every day, compliment her, who knows, you might end up lifting her confidence. Tell to that girl who is too skinny that she’s beautiful, you don’t know what she’s going through.
You cannot travel like the other girls? That’s okay, don’t waste your time worrying and being jealous, instead, use your energy working towards your dreams, towards the person you want to be, the life you want to have.
We are here not to compete against each other because, at the end of the day, we will go back to our own life, whatever the other people said against us, or how you bashed them, it wouldn’t matter. At the end of the day, you will come home, you will evaluate why you are here, and there, you will see hating someone or what someone told you wouldn’t matter anymore.
It’s you who will drag yourself to that dream job, it’s you who will talk to your boss that you are done. It’s you who will tell to your ex that you have moved on and he should stop texting you. It’s you who can light up another girl’s day.
It doesn’t matter what they say, it doesn’t matter if another girl has a different opinion than yours. What matter is you, how you will make yourself happy, how you will find your own happiness? This is not about them, her, nor him. This is about you, your life, your value.
Dear girls, come on, flip the table, change the world. Make the women who died making us part of this world proud. Let’s lift each other together, stop the hate. Life is like a canvas, you are holding the brush, you can paint your own life, add colours to it.
You control your destiny, you control your life. And that my love, is the reason why you are special.
If you have a chance, what will you say to girls all over the world?
This post is a part of the P.S. I’m On My Way’s Ambassadorship for Girl Rising – a global campaign for girls’ education and empowerment.
Girl Rising uses the power of storytelling to share the simple truth that educating girls can transform societies. Our mission is to change the way the world values the girl and ensure that girls’ education is part of the mainstream conversation.